training blog - are you a believer?
Like I hear so often when delivering training, have you heard the phrases, “I’m not good at that” or, “I can’t do that”? I bet you’ve heard it a lot and you may have even heard it from your inner self at some point in your life. I want you to consider the effect on your confidence, motivation and ability if you are saying this; what do you think the result will be? You’re completely right if you thought, “You won’t be good / you won’t do it” At some stage, a decision within has been made that something is beyond possible and sometimes even worse than that, people say a third party has told them; imagine what that does to people! When these manifest themselves within us, we call them, “Self-limiting beliefs”; you’ll hear us talk about them an awful lot in our training and blogs because a huge part of our job is to help you banish them as they become like a ball and chain you are dragging along with you. Let’s then turn around the above statement’s and think more like, “I can get good at that if I learn” and “I can do that”; think of the immediate change in your mindset just through these simple words; now instead we have something that is truly motivational! Back then to my journey battling my self-limiting beliefs while skiing, some of you may recall on one of my previous blogs, I wrote about the self-confidence I needed to get back on my ski’s after quite a serious accident. I needed to gain confidence in my skiing again to try and give my Level 2 ski course another go (for the 3rdtime). Honestly, I had doubts if it was achievable physically and mentally; I had the “I can’t, I’m not good enough” moments (these are those self-limiting beliefs) which I turned around with the help of my trainer, my ski group and some personal reflection. I left the week in November with huge positivity thinking, “I am good enough at this, I can do this”, and I’m delighted to say that I did pass the course early in April; I was physically and more importantly, mentally ready!
The moral of this story then is never to give up; anything is achievable if we give it our all with positivity; if you don’t first succeed, keep trying. Don’t let those powerful self-limiting beliefs take over your mind and those of others; if you ever have or hear those moments where you think or hear “I’m no good / I can’t” immediately turn them into “I (you) can, I (you) will”; motivate, encourage yourself and others and watch what happens!