Coaching

Have you ever noticed the direction you choose when you get irritated? The build-up, do you recognise what is happening in you. I always feel the tension in me when I start to get irritated; I look out for when it starts to build. You have to ask yourself what triggers this. Sometimes it may be your values; you feel...

All of us have a book to write, and we all could write plenty of chapters. What a great experience to do this to find how your journey has evolved and where you are today. There will be highs and lows, but overall the positive from it needs to be congratulated. Think about how much success you have had in...

I continue to find that I need to separate the differences between the two labels that are coaching and training as they continue to be miss-understood. The boundaries between coaching, training, mentoring and counselling continue to confuse everywhere I go. Every time I deliver either a training course or a coaching course I separate the differences at the start, and...

I thought I would continue with some blogs on coaching for managers. If anything it will help you consider/reflect on what you do compared to what you think you do. Where could you change? Coaching sessions need to be valued; they need to be prepared for and not just ad hoc. There has to be time given to prepare and...

What do you do when a coachee is sitting in front of you with their view on the world where you may see a different view in the way they are talking. How do you question this? Should you drive the direction? Questioning is key to a good coaching session; how do you guide and get the coachee to think...

When my mum used the words “Hurry up” to me, then the words “Get ready for school hurry up hurry up” Little did she know what patterns this would set up in me. Hurry up is just one of the five Kahler drivers but I relate very well to this one as I see it in everything that I do...

I recently had a bit of a lightbulb moment when I heard someone say that they ask their people if they are coachable? I noticed in myself that I stopped for a second to think about what I had just heard. I was amazed that someone would even ask their people if they thought they were coachable? And get them...

A fantastic question for everyone to think about. When was the last time you reflected on your working day? If you are brutally honest with yourself, I suspect not very often. I do hear the word  ‘rarely’ a lot when I am coaching, the most common word I hear from coachees when I ask this question. Why is this? Are we...

How often have you reflected on your way of looking at the world?  When you change paradigms, you are changing how you think about something. Have you ever reflected in how you view the world and how often someone changes your view of the world? Or maybe not? If not, why? Are you so judgemental in your decisions you choose...

If you want to make progress or significant changes in life, then get comfortable with being uncomfortable. I feel this is linked with stepping out of your comfort zone because being uncomfortable is good for you; it can help you develop in life. My background taught me that it was important to be slightly nervous before controlling aircraft, it is the...